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Do I pay for my teen's hair products?

Before going to the supermarket, I'll ask my daughters if they need anything for their bathroom: shampoo, conditioner, toothpaste.  The other day my oldest said, "Mom, I need mousse."

"Uh-huh," I answered and she walked off.  After she left, I thought, "Why am I buying her mousse?" 

Do I pay for the mousse?
When I was a high schooler,  my sisters and I bought our own hair spray and gel.  Heck, we had to buy our own clothes and sneakers - yes, that's right, our own sneakers.  I realize, this is extreme, but it still got me wondering whether I should buy her mousse.

Earlier in the year, I informed my oldest that if she wanted to hang out with friends, she pays.  She didn't like it at first but adjusted when she realized her friends were also paying their way.  Recently, I told her she had to buy her own junk food.  As such, she doesn't accompany me to the supermarket anymore.  I suppose those treats were an incentive.

So now, the newest is mousse.  I feel it is important to fit in at school and her hair is wild. The mousse keeps it tame but it's not a necessity.  I know the mousse is a simple thing but in perspective shouldn't she be learning to pay for her way?   And what other extras does she feel she need?

I would love to hear your opinion - and FYI, yes, my kids get a small allowance and my oldest works.


  1. Hmmm, I guess for me it's the price point that matters. If I wanted some Paul Mitchel super conditioner when I was a teenager, I had to buy it myself, but products priced reasonably were never an issue.

    1. I was thinking along the same lines - perhaps get the cheap stuff and if she wants the nice stuff well she can use her own money.

  2. I believe it is important to teach our children the value of things. I agree with Jeri and if your daughter wants something specific that is out of the norm of what you usually purchase then make her pay for it. Beauty can be expensive. :-)

    1. Yes, beauty can be expensive. I think I'm ready to have a talk with her.

  3. I hope you will keep in submitting new articles or blog posts & thank you for sharing your great experience among us.

  4. I think it's good to teach kids about buying things with their own money. Afterall before long they will have to pay it for themselves. They need to learn the value of a dollar and that def helps.

    1. That was my thought when she first brought it up - on the other hand, she doesn't have too many sources of income.


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